ETIQUETTE AND SOCIAL GRACES for Teenagers by Anita Jakpor

The Project Impact One train stopped at the New Era Secondary School, Surulere and it was a day of learning and laughter. Anita Jakpor, our chief facilitator gave a riveting training session about social graces and etiquette to the wonderful teenage girls in SS2 and SS3. Here is an overview of the simple gems of knowledge she taught them. Please invite your teenage sister, child or friend to have an informative read but who am I kidding, everyone needs to read this.

Definition of Etiquette

Etiquette is a customary way of polite behavior in society or among members of a group. It includes the manner of dressing, social interaction and public conduct.

Why is Etiquette Important?

- It sets standards for how to be polite to one another, and how to interact. Without it, everyone might be rude instead.

- It shows respect and consideration for others, and makes all social interaction more pleasant for all concerned.

- It makes people take you more seriously through their lives, especially in their careers and relationships.

- It distinguishes you as a teen from the crowd in a positive way.

The 'GOLDEN RULE' or acting toward people as you would like them to act toward you is a significant part of good manners. When a teen is polite to another person, it is likely that the other person will be polite in return. You earn the respect of your peers, younger children and of adults. Being polite can indicate that more good things will happen to a teenager.

For instance, a teen has the habit of writing 'Thank You' notes to people for gifts or favors is more likely to continue to receive gifts, because the givers feel appreciated.

You can show Etiquette at home, in the school, to adults, during social interactions, playtime and in every aspect of your social interactions.

What are Social Graces?

Social graces are skills used during interactions and are usually polite in nature. They include manners, etiquette, fashion etc.

Let's always try to portray a good image of ourselves, avoid 'Toxic Traits' and interact with people at all levels.

Etiquette Quotes;

- 'A man's manners are a mirror in which he shows his portrait'.

- 'Good manners sometimes means simply putting up with other people's bad manners'

- 'It takes two to Tango'.

“Etiquette is the science of living. It embraces everything. It is ethics.”